As few as 6 years ago I really didn’t get it.
In 2016 I was a mom just coming up for air after having 3 babies, and the last time I had contemplated 'fitness' had been in college.
It was an era where ‘sexy’ looked like a size00 A&F model in super low slung jeans falling off her hips, and a tube top precariously held up only by tape.
So when I decided it was time to fasten my chin strap and get serious about weightloss, I assumed there was no other way besides forcing myself into a punishing workout regimen while consuming as few calories as possible.
I am shading my eyes in embarrassment to share those words, but I am so glad I took this past half decade to help that ‘all or nothing’ version of myself come to realize my fullest expression through coaching, self-evaluation, and lots of time ‘in the gray.’
Here’s what I know about a binary approach to life now...
That pass/fail is no way to live. I missed so much, and I don't just mean hiding behind my kids in photographs.
That if someone goes from eating 3000 calories a day of mostly carbs and fat to targeting 3000 calories a day while prioritizing protein and micros, it WILL ignite change.
That someone can change NOTHING more than taking rest, drinking more water or going to bed an hour sooner, and they’ve just begun meaningfully bridging the health gap.
That you can go from 6 🍊theory workouts down to 3 full body strength sessions a week and see insane body recomp with minimal dietary change.
I know this because I did this...and now I teach this and now I watch this.
It’s not about the ✅ or the 💯; but rather getting really good at one thing, realizing life can still pretty rad while you hit your goals, then adding another.
Shifting to embrace this required experimenting in the grey. I’ve come a long way from 'shut up and do it or quit altogether.' I’ve learned to meet myself where I am; recognizing the value in holding space to find my own path.
I’ll always be clear in my coaching philosophy around sticking to the fundamentals 90% of the time and honoring that commitment to yourself. But a huge part of getting there is learning to trust life 'in the gray.'